How to Take No for an Answer

A Story from My Good Friend Allan

“No, I don’t want to take a nap!  Not tired!” said Elise.

I knew at least ONE person needed to take a nap, and I didn’t want to waste a moment with my granddaughter. So, I said, “Want me to read to you?”

“Yes, Allan. Read to me.”

“Ask nicely.”

“Allan, will you please read to me.”

“Sure. I would love to.”

Three pages into the story, she was out.

It’s the foundation of all that we do. Might even be the sine qua non.





14 Responses to “How to Take No for an Answer”

  1. Marlaine July 30, 2012 at 11:07 am #

    This is one of the sweetest parenting posts I have read in a long time. Children really do not need that much attention but rather the right attention at the right time to feel loved and secure. Thanks for sharing!! Hugs to all!!

  2. Anne July 30, 2012 at 12:23 pm #

    Experience will tell.

  3. Shara July 30, 2012 at 4:06 pm #

    Very nice. I like this story 🙂 Thanks for sharing it (I saw it on LinkedIn by the way). So often we can work through the negative things our kids say or do by just staying calm and coming up with a roundabout way to get them to do what’s needed… eating, sleeping, etc.

  4. Deborah McNelis July 30, 2012 at 4:45 pm #

    BEAUTIFUL Rick!!

  5. Rick July 30, 2012 at 5:05 pm #

    I know. The moment inspired me.

  6. Valerie Wells July 31, 2012 at 7:37 am #

    Ummm … why does she call her grandpa “Allan”? LOL

  7. Rick July 31, 2012 at 7:48 am #

    I thought someone would pick up on that. Interesting what attracts people’s attention–not always the most important thing–and then sometimes it is.

  8. Susan July 31, 2012 at 8:54 am #

    Reminds me of when I was a kid. My aunt would say it’s time to put on a sweater when your mother’s cold.

  9. Rick Armstrong July 31, 2012 at 7:41 pm #

    Two sleeping birds with one story!
    It is so sweet when the simplest solution works so well.

  10. Mary Lou August 1, 2012 at 5:23 am #

    What a wonderful story! Allan could have found himself in a battle with his granddaughter, but instead, he managed to get what he wanted and she needed in a most loving and respectful way. Reminds me of “The Little Bear Story”.

    Mary Lou

  11. Rick August 1, 2012 at 5:38 am #

    Should be a famous quotation: “It’s time to put on a sweater when your mother is cold.”

  12. Sally August 1, 2012 at 8:32 am #

    This tactic might work very well with teens as well. Wouldn’t that be a breakthrough?

  13. Marty Dutcher August 3, 2012 at 10:17 am #

    That is really sweet! Isn’t it amazing how things go with young children when we ask them to do things with us – socially – rather than figure out how to get them to do things? Nice reminder.

  14. Liz Ditz August 11, 2012 at 9:50 am #

    My father refused to be called any variation on Grandfather. He liked to be called Jack.

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